Unconditional Amor

Dear Dad,

I remember how scared I was for coming out to you, you were and still are my everything. I though you would be disgusted by me. You come a from a small town from Mexico, where the macho and homophobic culture is present. It was not easy for you in the first few months, but you eventually accepted it.

I thought I could not love you more, but then I came out and you showed me unconditional love, and that made me loved you even more. You met my girlfriend and you treated us as you would have treated a heterosexual couple. You loved to hang out with my gay friends and really cared for them. I love you not just by the fact that you have accepted my friends, my girlfriend and myself, but because I remember as if it was yesterday that you told me “I don’t care who are you with in a relationship, I don’t care if you are with a man, a woman or a trans person, I just want you to be happy and loved”.

Thank you for being so excited (and tagging along) to go with me to my first pride parade when we were in Vienna, thank you for wanting to see documentaries about queer people, thank you for calling me when I’m with my girlfriend just to catch up with her, thank you for bringing her presents, thank you for giving me my first rainbow flag and buying anything with a rainbow in it haha… Thank you for telling me that you want grandchildren (even though I just want dogs) and that a family is composed by love and not by a mom and a dad, especially in a time when in Mexico thousands of people marched the streets to prohibit a family like my future one. Thank you for defending my community with the people of your church.

I will ALWAYS love you, always, always…

Sincerely,

Your daughter Ruth